When a horrible date can be a great thing!!!

 

OK. I’ll admit that “horrible date” is my description. It was actually a great date interspersed with some unfortunate happenings that was more an embarrassment to me than anything else. So, have a seat, and see what you think.

 

Last week, instead of going out to KOBE Japanese Steak House, I took Diann to The Cotton Club up in Granger, where we had an incredible time. So this week, I was taking Diann to KOBE. I go to pick her up and she is just gorgeous! I’m thinking, “This is going to be a great night!” It sure started off that way.

 

We get to KOBE and, darn the luck, we have to go to the bar and have a glass of excellent wine while we wait for a table to be readied. And you know how much I hate being stuck with a beautiful, intelligent lady.

 

Anyway, dinner was awesome. Our Japanese chef, Juan, put on a pretty darn good show. The food was excellent. Diann had Tilapia and I had the Rib eye. Both were cooked to perfection. So after dinner we’re feeling excellent as we head out to the car. We decided to go to Cool River where there is a fun band playing 70′s/80′s music.

 

I started the car and got distracted for just a second and it shut itself off. Hmmm? Now it won’t start at all. Cussword! Well I get a jump from the guy parked in front of me. I know what’s wrong. It’s the battery cable again. We head to Diann’s house to swap cars. When we get to her house, she asks me if I want to fix my car since I know what’s wrong. I say yes and get to fixing it while she goes inside.

 

Sure enough, the cable has a bad case of corrosion. It takes about 20 minutes to clean the cables and reconnect them. I go inside and wash up and we’re ready to go!!

 

We jump in the car and head off to Cool River. I order a Glen Fiddich 12 Yr Old for me and a Maker’s Mark and Water for Diann. Nice place, pretty lady, good music, good drink. Ahhhh. Life is great!

 

……………UNTIL!!!

 

When we decide to leave and head out to the car, I notice that the remote unlock isn’t working. No beep. No flashing lights. Not unlocking. Damn.

 

Yep. Battery is completely D-E-A-D! I somehow left the headlights on and the battery is DOA. I’m not happy and I’m dreading what Diann is thinking. She notices someone leaving and suggests I get them to give us a jump. I flag him down and he’s agreeable since I have cables. He’s having a difficult time getting his hood up. I don’t think he gets under it too often. We get hooked up and my car starts right up, but he disconnects the cables too soon and the car dies. Now the battery is so drained that it needs to charge up for a while. Well this guy has his wife/girlfriend in the truck, so I thank him and send him on his way. I mean, there’s no reason getting him in Dutch with her.

 

My brother lives not too far away, so I call him. He gives me the obligatory grief, but says he’ll come give me a jump. In the meantime, Diann and I are pretty much just relaxing. Well, I am. She seems to be, but I know this isn’t what she wants to be doing.

 

My brother finally arrives and he has my 2 oldest nephews in tow. This could be a good thing, or this could be a torturous thing! You see, they have the same sense of humor as the rest of the Robertson’s do!

 

Well, after some good natured ribbing, we get the car running. I thank them, tell them I’m good and I head out. I get about half way out the parking lot!! DAMN!!! Fortunately, Duncan was still there and we did the jumpstart again. This time I kept my foot on the gas. Duncan said he’d follow me. Diann is being great about all this as I’m apologizing to her for the situation. She just says she hates car problems and quite understands.

 

So I let the car charge for a few moments, then I headed off. As I come to each stop or turn, I put the car in neutral and keep the engine revving so it doesn’t die. No, this isn’t the first time I’ve had to do this!!! LOL But it has been a long time.

 

As we’re getting close to Diann’s house, I tell her, “I guess you realize I won’t be walking you to the door?” She laughs and says, “Yeah. I was thinking I may have to just jump out as we get close.” Whew! She sees some humor in all this! I pull up to her house, staying in the street, to let her out. We say a quick goodnight and I wait for her as she goes inside. As I figured, the drive from Cool River to her house is enough of a charge to my battery that I’m good now.

 

Duncan pulls up next to me and David pipes up, “Hey, Uncle Eric. A gentleman always walks his date to the door!” Gotta love him!

 

Duncan suggests he follow me home. I tell him I’m fine now. I can make it home ok. He says he’d rather follow me home than go home only to be called back out by me should the car die again. I tell him, “Ok.” I can drive normally by now and head home. When I get home, I shut the car off and test it. It starts fine. Several times. I thank Duncan and the boys and head inside.

 

As embarrassing as I thought the night could’ve been, I was even more impressed by how Diann was so great through it all. I sent her a text thanking her for being so awesome through it all, and she just wanted me to let her know when I got home safe. I really got to see a great side of Diann that night. (Haven’t seen a bad side, yet!)

 

So as the title suggests: A horrible date can be a great thing!!

MY “BEAVER CLEAVER” MOMENT

I first saw her in Miss Corbin’s 4th grade class, and fell head over heels in love! Diann Mayer! Of course, she being the prettiest girl, not only in the class but I suspect in the entire school, she never knew I was alive. However, she is responsible for one of the most embarrassing events of my life, though she never knew it.

It was Valentine’s Day (still 4th grade). Back then every kid gave Valentine’s Day cards to everyone in their class. I couldn’t get my card for Diann just right and I ended up using 3 or more cards to get it the way I wanted. So the next morning I got to class early to deliver my cards. We had desks that were a table top with an upper and lower compartment underneath and in the middle to store our books, pencils, yo-yo’s army men and other stuff. So……I not only put Diann’s card in her desk, I put all of the ones I thought weren’t quite right, too!!! Leaving 3 or 4 tokens of a 4th grader’s unending devotion!

Needless to say…..later when everyone got to class, Diann found all those cards. I’ll never forget to this day, she and her best friend Judy, gasping and turning to look at me. I wanted to shrink and crawl inside my desk to hide!

Hey, Wally!!!!!!!!!

 

THIS IS SURREAL!!

Ok, so now you know that Diann was my fantasy girl from 4th grade until I left Reagan. If I saw Diann walking in the school hallway between classes, in my mind’s eye, she would sachet in slow motion and in soft focus. A gentle breeze would be blowing her perfectly feathered hair just enough to lift it off her shoulders, and a soundtrack by Journey playing in the background! I’m talking a scene right out of an 80′s John Hughes movie.

Even though we never really spoke, much less socialized, I figured 9th grade would be the last time I’d ever see her, since I was moving to another high school. However, I did see her in college when she was part of a dance/pep squad for the basketball team, called the “Texas Love”. Man, did she ever grow up nice! Of course, that was no surprise.

Fast Forward 32 years!!! We’re having a class of ’77 party. I get to the party and head back to say hello to some old Reagan friends, and they go and pull Diann up to me to say hello. And of course, the only thing I say is, “Holy Crap! Diann!” That was minus 50 ‘Cool Points’, thank you very much. I might as well have been back in Miss Corbin’s 4th grade classroom!!

So anyway, I’m on Face Book, and I check and sure enough, she’s on Face Book, so I figure, “What the hell?” I send her a ‘friend request’, and lo and behold, she accepts. I’m still pretty sure she didn’t really remember me, and was just being nice. Well, she responds positively to some of my posts on Face Book, and I’m thinking, “Hmmm?” Don’t ask me why…..but one day, I do some more figuring to myself, and say again, “What the hell?” and send her a message asking if she’d like to meet for drinks after work sometime. I’m fully expecting a polite, “Hell no.” but, lo and behold again, she says, “Yes.” Now, knowing how when He gets bored, God loves to play little tricks on me, I’m not fully convinced this is going to really happen, but I have to run with it! Hey! We’re talking Diann Mayer, here!

 

THE FIRST DATE

We set up a day and time to meet. Oh, I forgot to tell you. She’s a Vegan. No, it’s not an evil cult religion, well?……… no, I guess it’s not. So I let her pick the place since I’m pretty much the “Anti-Vegan”! She picks a Friday night at Hyde Park Bar & Grill. Cool. As the day approaches, the weather was worsening. Yep. Gods little antics! We have to postpone the ‘date’. On the day of the rescheduled date, the weather was not ideal either, but it wasn’t bad enough to postpone again. Whew!

So I’m sitting in the bar at a table, and it’s just a classic scene. Here I am, having to tell the waiter I’m expecting someone, nursing my scotch and trying to NOT look at the door every time it opens. And of course, it feels like an hour, especially with the waiter coming over to ‘check’ on me several times. “Hello? God? Is that you?” “Bored again, are You?”

The wait did give me an opportunity to think up potential topics of conversation. What I came up with was zilch. Nada. A big fat nuttin’! I mean, I could have told her about my prepubescent fantasy of getting her to like me by various methods of ‘saving her life’. You know, the catch her falling from a ladder, or pull her from the path of an oncoming bus. Stuff like that. I’m thinking these are not good topics unless I want her calling security.

After what seems like a week, she arrives. Boy was it worth the wait. I was almost more relieved than anything. First, that she showed, and at least the waiter and bartender knew now I wasn’t stood up! She’s as pretty as ever, with a smile that immediately put me at ease. Conversation didn’t exactly flow like the Mississippi, but we have enough in common like, friends, school, the ‘old’ days, etc. that we got through it just fine. Well enough, as a matter of fact, that we made mention of a second date! Ta-duh!!!!

We’ve since gone out several times, and it looks like we will continue to do so. We’ve got some fun things planned already. No ladder catching or speeding bus has been required.

 

God? Thank you!

 

EPR – March 2010

D & E Wine Tasting Tour, Saturday – 24 April 2010

D & E Wine Tasting Tour, Saturday – 24 April 2010

I picked up Diann at 9:00 in the morning. It’s just not right that someone looks that good that early on a Saturday morning!! I’d been up since 6:30, re-washed the car, and got some coffee, and I’m sure I looked like hell!

I had programmed into my GPS the 4 stops for the day, so I punched in Texas Olive Oil Company and began to follow the green line! Below is a description of the day. Times are close, but I wasn’t keeping an actual journal!

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1. 10:00 – 11:30 – The Bella Vista Ranch , located in the hill country of Wimberley, Texas. Designed to reflect a traditional Italian family farm, the ranch is home to over 1000 producing olive trees, seasonal fruit and vegetables, a frantoio (olive press), a winery, tasting room and gift shop. http://www.texasoliveoil.com/

This was our first stop. Came here mostly to learn about the olive orchard he has and how olive oil is made. I swear I was back in Dr. Lagowski’s Chemistry 301 at UT!!! This guy LOVES to talk, and KNOWS his olives. Was very interesting hearing about how fragile the trees are, yet how durable they can be under the right circumstances. He and his contemporaries really are pioneers. The tasting was interesting also. Naturally, I loved the Garlic Olive Oil.

We didn’t do the wine tasting here. It was a tad early for that. We did buy a bottle of olive oil!

There were only 6 of us on this tour/lecture. And of course, there was one guy that thought he knew more than he did and was asking lots of questions. You could tell at times the owner was a bit perturbed with him. At least he was somewhat entertaining for the rest of us!

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1. 12:00 – 12:45 – Hillsedge Grille and Pub
   Wimberley, TX (512) 847-1133

   http://www.urbanspoon.com/r/11/1421605/restaurant/Austin/Hillsedge-Grille-and-Pub-Wimberley
   

    

We headed in to Wimberley to visit the Wimberley Wine Store. What we didn’t know was that there was the Wimberley Art Festival taking place that day!! Wimberley isn’t exactly designed for alot of traffic. So it took us quite a while to get to the Square only to find out THAT’s where the festival was taking place, so we decided to just go for a drive and find some place to eat.

Since we were down to under 200 miles of gas left, I stopped in to top off the tank. (Actually, I was going to ask directions for some decent eats!!) The girl at the gas station motioned over to the ‘grill’ in the back that they have there at the gas station. Yeah. That’s where I want to take Diann. NOT! So, with as little snobbery as I could muster, I asked her if she knew of a ‘sit down’ place nearby. One that served vegetarian dishes. She replied, “We have bean burritos!” ugh.

Anyway, she mentioned a place up the road, Hillsedge Grille. We had a nice lunch, and then headed to our next stop.

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1. 1:30 – 3:00 – Driftwood Estate Winery
   is owned and operated by Gary and Kathy Elliott. The vineyard, planted in 1998, is 20 acres with 14 acres currently in production with 7 grape varieties. We received our winery license in July of 2002 and did our first commercial grape crush with the August 2002 harvest. Our first commercial wine was bottled in February 2003 and we opened the winery to the public on March 1, 2003. Our first year production totaled about 1,200 cases, which included 5 different wines. We now produce over 4,500 cases. http://www.driftwoodvineyards.com/

The next stop was supposed to be Mandola’s Winery, but I must have ‘fat-fingered’ the GPS and selected Driftwood Vineyards instead. What a stroke of genius!!!!

After winding through these country roads, we see the sign for Driftwood and (after making a quick U-Turn) pulled in to the property. The vineyard is on the right of the drive and then we start heading up. And I mean UP! We get to the top and see the parking lot and pull in to a spot. The place looks kind of like a very nice camp/park site. Off to the right are the buildings, but dead ahead was a nice view, so we headed for the view. As we got closer, the view got better and better. We were probably 500 feet up on a bluff looking down at the vineyard, a pasture loaded with goats and the Hill Country.

We pulled ourselves away and went to the Tasting Room / Store. For $10 each, we got to taste any 6 of their wines, and keep a wine glass. The wines were all very good at worst. And a couple were excellent! We bought a couple bottles of wine to take with us, and we each bought a glass of our favorite from the tasting and walked out to a spot on the wall looking over the valley, and just……………………RELAXED! We spent probably an hour just enjoying the view, the sun and the breeze. We could’ve just stayed there the entire time.

We WILL be back!

 

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1. 3:30 – 5:30 – Mandola Estate Winery
   Founded in 2005 by Houston wine connoisseurs Drs. Stan and Lisa Duchman and inspired by their travels to Europe, the Mandola Estate Winery in Driftwood, Texas (about 20 miles southwest of Austin in the Texas Hill Country) recreates a small corner of Italy http://mandolaestatewinery.com/about/

OK, so on to Mandola’s! As we pulled in to the parking area it seemed to be a much more ‘corporate’ feel. Paved parking, big building, etc. But the building is very impressive. Large, european (Italian) style place. As we walked in to the foyer, it was even more impressive. Tastings were going on in the lobby and the tasting room. Here we got to taste 9 of their wines. The server (docent) told us that the 9 tastes would equate to roughly one and a half glasses of wine. WRONG! LOL His pours were very generous.

We didn’t get to pick the wines we wanted to taste. He went down their selection from the menu in order. As he poured, he described what we were tasting, and the story behind the wine. Very nice. There were a couple wines that were just OK, but the rest were very good. After about 6 tastes the tour began. We enjoyed the tour guide immensely. He’s a 22 year old student about to be certified in wine making with a great delivery. The tour was only about 20 minutes long and when it was done, we went back to the tasting room and finished the last 3 samples.

We bought 2 bottles there also, and walked around the grounds a little bit and then started for home.

 

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It was time for dinner and we decided to go to The Clay Pit, where we each had a glass of their wine. As we tasted their wine, we seemed to have an all new appreciation (and critiquing) of it.

This was quite a day. A blast from start to finish. Fun, educational and relaxing. I think next trip will be to the Marble Falls area. Can’t wait.

 

Diann, thank you for making the day great!!

P.S. If I got anything wrong, let me know.

The LBJ Jaguar Band Heritage

FROM WHENCE WE CAME

Back in the mid 1960’s Austin had another of its historical growth spurts which necessitated the building of a new high school.  Thus was born John H. Reagan High School.  It was 1964.  University Hills was expanding and McCallum High School was overflowing.  Reagan High School quickly outgrew itself.  Portable buildings had to be brought in to handle the load.  This, even after construction of “The New Mall” (classroom building) was completed.  Enrollment exceeded 2000 students.  Northeast Austin (yes, back then it was NE Austin) was growing like a wild fire. 

By the time Reagan was 3 years old, we won our first State Football Championship.  In 1967, 1968 and 1970 the Raiders won Texas state championships as well as being declared national champions by then-US President, Richard M. Nixon in 1970.  In 1973 the Raiders lost the State Championship game to Tyler John Tyler and a running back by the name of Earl Campbell. 

The Band’s success paralleled that of the football team.  Many talented musicians came from Reagan.  Reagan H.S. actually marched a larger band that the University of Texas at one point!   A high school band performing “wall to wall” halftime shows.  It was very exciting and a source of pride for the students, the parents and the school. The architect of the Reagan Band was a young disciplinarian by the name of Glenn Richter.   Agree, or disagree with his methods, the band was as huge a success as the football team.

Soon Reagan had become a dynasty.  Rumor has it that a plan was devised to break up this dynasty by splitting Reagan in two.  Thus, a new northeast Austin high school was planned.  This school would become LBJ High School.  The uniqueness of the plan was that LBJ was populated by almost 100% former Reagan students.  This did accomplish one great achievement.  It created one of the all-time, great high school rivalries.  Comparable to Midland v. Midland Lee, Midland v. Odessa Permian, and maybe even The University of Texas v. Oklahoma!

Those first years of the rivalry, you could count on the Reagan vs. LBJ game to draw SRO crowds!  Nelson Field was filled to the brim.  Both sides of the stadium was loud and proud.  It was the game of the year and the game we all looked forward to every year.

The division of Reagan in to two schools wasn’t done like new schools are now a days.  Today when a new high school is opened, it is populated one class at a time.  When LBJ was built, a line was drawn (Northeast Drive!) and you either went to LBJ or stayed at Reagan.  All four classes.  This did not sit well the students that were to be seniors at Reagan that year, only to be sent to “that new school”. 

What was a stroke of serendipity was that the A.I.S.D. sent Glenn Richter to LBJ to be the Director of Bands.  The split left LBJ with a marching band of 96, and that included freshman.  You had to be an exceptional musician to make the marching band as a freshman at Reagan before the split.  Now we needed all the people we could get.  At some point the LBJ Band included the First Ladies (drill team) in the marching portion of halftime shows.  But what we lacked in warm bodies, we made up for with skill and talent.  Mr. Richter left LBJ after 2 years, to become the Director of Bands at the University of Cincinnati, and subsequently Director of the University of Texas Longhorn Band.  It cannot be denied that Glenn Richter planted the seeds of the tradition of excellence to music and marching.  To this day, that tradition has been carried forward and grown by Don Haynes.

ENID TRI-STATE MUSIC FESTIVAL

The LBJ Jaguar Band (before being know as, “The One, The Only”) started winning trophies and contests that very first year.  LBJ had more than its share of All-District, All-Regional, and All-State band members.  And we attended the prestigious Tri-State Music Festival in Enid, Oklahoma where we won several awards and knocked out the judges not only with our marching, but with the sound we generated from such a small group. 

The highlight of the 1975 Enid parade was when the crowd had to get up and move out of our way when we came to a corner where we had to make a left turn.  All the previous bands had come to the turn and performed the standard pinwheel maneuver.  The spectators slowly moved in to the street forming an arch that conformed to the previous bands.  Not us!  Mr. Richter taught us a slick turn where we marched directly to the end of the street, at which point we performed a series of counter marches that enable us to march ‘through’ ourselves and make a 90 degree left turn.  The Aggie Band would have been proud!  The crowd loved it so much, we taught this maneuver to Mr. Haynes when we returned to Enid 2 years later, where it was once again a hit with the crowd!

FUND RAISING IN THE ‘OLD’ DAYS

Fund raising back in the mid to late 1970’s was a completely different animal than today.  We looked forward to trips to Enid, Corpus Christi and the like.  We weren’t planning trips overseas!  Thus our fundraising methods were much simpler and considerably less ‘corporate’ than today.

The band members would participate in the selling of goods, or the collecting of recyclables.  We would sell Christmas items like candy or candles.  Or, we’d collect glass bottles and paper for recycling.  We always seemed to make it to where we wanted to go.

• Candy – Sold
• Tamales – Sold
• Newspaper – Collected
• Bottle (glass) – Collected
• Candles – Sold

By Eric Robertson (Reagan: 1974 – LBJ: 1975-1977)

A Godsend day……….

For various reasons, I’ve been in a fairly ‘black’ mood lately.  Alot of things piling up on me, or seeming too, anyway.  And of course, even the smallest thing would seem to just add to my real and perceived burden. 
 
But……..
 
Last saturday I was invited by a friend to come out to Llano and attend a ‘concert’ being performed by some friends of hers who have a Christian band.  I also was going to do some work on her computer, so it seemed like a good arrangement.
 
Since my tire blew out on me the previous weekend, I still hadn’t been able to replaced the tire until I got paid by a client for some consulting work.  Not only did I need to replace the blown tire, but my two front tires are very close to needing replacing too.  So, I was literally driving to Llano purely on faith! 
 
It’s kind of funny.  After a while, you just stop worrying and figure whatever happens happens.  Needless to say, I made it out there.  Once in Llano, I had to stop in to a little antique store to get directions to the venue.  When I got there, it was the wrong place.  Fortunately, I got in touch with my friend and she directed me to the park where the band was performing.  I got there just as she and her mom were unpacking their car.  I was mmediately greeted by her mom, whom, if I had ever met, it would have been close to 40 years ago!
 
Well the band was really good.  This was less of a concert, and more of a glorified (no pun intended, ok maybe it is) rehearsal.  Most of the songs were well done and a few of them were obviously being ‘worked’ on.  The pavillion is right on the Llano greenbelt.  Maybe 100 yards from the river.  It was a warm, sunny day.  We setup our camping chairs in what shade we could find.  I joked about how we all looked like cows in a sunny pasture.  Everyone grouped under the nearest tree to setup!  Too funny.
 
While the band played, people visited, listened, watched their children, etc.  All the family activities you like to see.  My friend brought her big, ole, freindly dog Zeus.  I shared Zeus sitting duties.  Which were considerable since he was determined to lay down on some other peoples blanket!  Then when his ‘fetch toy’ was brought out……..oh man!  Talk about a one track mind!  LOL
 
 
Well I guess I mentioned all that, to say this………….
 
I got to know and love the country life when I was married to Kathleen.  Her family was from Cheapside, Texas (west of Cuero / Gonzales) and we spent alot of time down there on their ranches.  Country people just have that quality about them that appeals to me. Well, Llano has that same feel. 
 
The small Texas town.  Friendly people.  Everyone knows everyone.  God, Family & Friends.  People that give you the ’2 finger off the steering wheel’ wave as you approach and pass each other on the road.  People that pull over for a funeral procession.  That will wave ‘thank you’ if you give them room to pass on the narrow country roads.
 
After the concert, we went back to my friends parents house.  They have a 50 acre place just east of Llano.  Driving up to the house, my mind was taken back to the days down on the ranch at Cheapside.  The cattle guards.  The gravel road.  The tanks.  The brush.  The entire experience.  Even how I felt comfortable leaving my windows down, and the keys in the car. 
 
Her mom had left the concert a little early, and on her way home stopped and got some brisket from the local BBQ place.  Then while we were working on the computer, she was making the fixings for dinner.  I wasn’t expecting to be invited, but hey, these are nice people.  I can’t remember the last time I was part of a family dinner that wasn’t a holiday event.  What great memories that evokes.  That was a passion of my father’s.  Having family meal time.
 
The conversation was so relaxing and pleasant.  Her dad is a huge UT fan and shared some of the UT paraphernalia he has collected and received over the years. 
 
It was apparent later that night that we needed to have internet access in order to complete installing a software package.  They have only dialup access at their house, and that was not available, so…..we went to their church where they have wireless.  Her dad, she and I convoyed to town, which was great since getting from their home to the highway was akin to getting out of a house of mirrors, especially if this was your first time there and it’s night!
 
While driving out, I was fixated on the sky.  Pitch black with a zillion stars.  I found Aquarius, of course!  I hadn’t seen a sky like that since I was in Baghdad.  You can NEVER convince me this was all a cosmic accident.
 
Once at the church, we got the computer setup and started the download.  It was going to take a while, so we went in to the sanctuary where I was shown the alter and crosses that my friends dad had built himself.  Very impressive.
 
Impressive is the word I’ll use to describe the entire day.  And God send.  Because that’s exactly what it was.  To me, this is how it should be.  Every now and then, I need to be reminded that the world is NOT only the hustle, bustle, ‘get out of my way’ life we live here in the city. 
 
All my batteries were recharged that day.  A quality day, a blessed day, with quality people.  And I know exactly why I was directed there, and by whom.

Fun Time with “Joyce” (27Mar09)

- 27 Mar 09 -

Letter (email) to “Joyce”‘s sister:

I have to start this by telling you that I care about your sister very much. So much that I made compromises that I normally wouldn’t. And I made allowances for her that I shouldn’t just to make her happy or comfortable. In trying to make things easier for “Joyce”, (I’ll be honest) and for me too, I probably gave her more slack than I should have. As you know, we only have so much control over her. She has a way of making things happen for herself and getting what she wants. And what she apparently wants is to get drunk and party.

My first step in stopping to ‘enable’ “Joyce” was when I told her she had to be out of my house by Feb 1st, when she came to stay with you. I sincerely felt that being that close to her kids would make a huge impact on her behaviour. Unfortunately, I’m a romantic. I couldn’t shake the memory of her and how she cared for her kids when I first met her. I hoped that she would feel a little of that by living so close to them again. Especially Stephanie and A.J.

When “Joyce” moved up to stay with you I felt my withdrawals. I missed her, even though she seldom stayed at my house other than to come wash clothes, or shower, etc. But I gradually transitioned back in to my ‘normal’ life. A normal routine. I wasn’t faced with the day to day worries and stresses wondering where she was, who she was hanging out with, and if she was ok or not.

I don’t know how to be delicate about this next point, but, these last 2 weeks, working out at the rodeo (my 20th year with the same group people) has been a God-send. These are the finest of the finest people. Family oriented, true friends. It has nothing to do with money or social status or anything like that. It’s more of being around people that have their sh*t together.

Last night was not a good night. I had told “Joyce” NOT to come to my house again if she was drinking or drunk. I wasn’t going to put up with it. Well, about 10pm I hear the downstairs front door open. And I hear “Joyce” talking to herself. She’s taking too long to come up, so I know she’s drinking. And yep, she’s buzzed pretty good.

I reminded her that she was no longer welcome at my house if she was drunk. She did all the “Joyce” excuses, but for once I decided to stick to my guns. She tried to stall by going to the bathroom and as it turns out was drinking a beer in there. She start yelling at me about ‘living a day in her life’. About how she was the victim, etc. etc. I wasn’t going to argue with her in her state. But she’s got to learn that she made all the decisions that put her in her predicament. Everyone has choices to make, and those choices determine where we end up in life. Dammit!!!

Anyway, one thing led to a dozen but I still insisted she go back to her ‘friends’. I gave her her suitcase and purse and eventually took her downstairs. She sat at the bottom of my stairs finishing the beer she snuck in in her jacket.

Then I heard her making too much noise. I have neighbors that are trying to sleep. I went down and tried to quiet her and I’m sure you know how well that worked. She had thrown some of her beer on my floor and wall down there and that was it for me. I put her outside. She tried to grab whatever she could and to keep from being put out, but I eventually got her outside and locked the door.

The next 45 minutes to an hour was very difficult. She spent it banging on my doors. Both front and back. She knocked over my bbq grill and generally made lots of noise. I’m sure my neighbor must have come out and threatened to call the police. She eventually stopped, and I’m praying she went back to her ‘friends’.

Raquel, I’m torn up about this, but I have to put a stop to it. I do care about “Joyce” and want her to get well and for her and Geno to have a successful life together. I pray that she can hang in there until he gets out of prison. And I pray that he still loves her and stays with her and gives her the help she needs.

I may have ended “Joyce”‘s and my relationship last night. I hope not. But I may have. Only time will tell. Maybe you can explain to “Joyce” that I had to do what I did.

Sincerely,

Eric

Misc – Friends & Choices

Thank God for the rodeo! Not because it’s 2 weeks of running around like a chicken with its head cut off. Nor because it’s an opportunity to make some extra cash. But because it’s the 2 weeks out of each year that I get to spend time with quality people that I’ve been fortunate enough to get to know throughout the years that I’ve been either volunteering or working out there.

Especially lately, that I’ve been closely involved in a situation that frequently involves persons and personalities that are dynamically opposite from those I normally associate. I remember once I was told by someone that she wouldn’t consider being anything more than a friend, because she didn’t fit in with the people that I associated with, and that she would feel uncomfortable and out of place. Of course, I couldn’t say she was right. I didn’t want to even think she was right. But she was. Don’t get me wrong. Although I’d do many things differently (20/20 hindsight), I’d still do everything I could to try to help her out of her current predicament.

I’ve alway prided myself on being able to choose people to be friends & relationships. And between the past 6 months and now, I’ve come to appreciate them all the more. I’m not writing this to degradate anyone, but to honor my friends. I’ve seen first hand how decisions we make long ago affect our lives more than can be imagined. It’s the difference between being able to choose what school you want your children to attend, and living day to day, hoping that your stuff isn’t stolen by the strangers crashed at the room where you’re stuck ‘crashing’ yourself.

I’m not selling you a ticket, ma’am.

As you may or may not know, I work in Ticket Sales for the Star of Texas (Austin) Fair & Rodeo. Well, last night (Monday) at the rodeo a woman came up to my window about 30 minutes before the concert was to begin. She looked like she hadn’t had a decent meal for a while. By her skin condition, she obviously spends most of her time outside. She could not speak very well and was slurring her speech. She also was not too steady on her feet. She wanted a ticket to the Josh Turner concert.

There was no way I was selling her a ticket. To me, she was just too drunk. The arena is tricky enough to navigate through a large crowd as it is, much less in the incapacitated state she was in. So I told her I wasn’t going to sell her a ticket and if she wanted she could go to the ticket manager at the north ticket office to plead her case to him. After 5 minutes of playing the victim, she finally left my window.

A few minutes later she shows up with a Sheriff’s Deputy who tells me that she is not drunk, but is mentally handicapped, and to sell her the ticket. I reluctantly did as he ordered. While I’m in the process of getting her her ticket, the deputy begins to question the woman. One thing leads to a dozen, and by the way the woman was responding (or NOT responding) he comes to the conclusion that…………………ready?……………………she’s drunk!

Don’t get me wrong. He was very professional and very polite to her. He explained to me that they (the police) had been in some trouble the last couple of years because they did indeed suspect some mentally handicapped people to be drunk and treated them as such only to be repremanded later. So he was giving her the benefit of the doubt.

If any of you have read what postings I have in my blog, you should know that one thing I now know all too well is identifying and dealing with intoxicated persons!!!

Just another night at the Rodeo!!!

Later,

Eric

Save Reagan HS “political ad”

Aparrently BHO’s Media team is involved now! (or so it would seem)

 

Gee, funny, they didn’t mention the fights, the drugs, the police calls, the murder, the assaults.  Nor did they mention the years of failing tests which is why the TEA is keeping an eye on them. 

 

I went to the LBJ / Reagan football game last October.  What the Reagan Band did was vulgar and disgusting. 

 

In short…………………This is NOT the Reagan High School that we knew.  It is NOT the Reagan High School that won championships in football, baseball, track, or, that fielded an award winning marching band of over 300 members.  The list can go on.

 

So watch this political video produced by the Save Reagan group.

http://vimeo.com/3148622

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Eric Robertson
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Optimism abounds!

Optimism abounds!

12Feb2009

Two Saturdays ago “Joyce” and I went to breakfast while we waited for her mom to come and pick her up. It was moving day. Joyce was going back to Ft. Worth to stay with her sister and be near 3 of her children. A month earlier I had given Joyce till the end of January to find some other place to ‘stay’. Why the quotes? Because she seldom stayed at my place. Oh her things were there, but I felt more like I was providing storage. Anyway…….

“Joyce” had fallen in to a pattern of perpetual small failures that snowballed in to her being more and more frustrated every day. She would get up early and go to the day labor / temp employment agencies looking for work for the day only to be sent home. This frustrated me to no end! I tried to convince her that getting a regular job would be a better route, but she would have none of that. So every morning off she went, and in over 2 months, she was assigned work 2 or 3 times.

Now the main problem with this is that once she was informed there was no work for her that day, she would find her nearest drinking buddies, and that was all it took for her to end up wasted, which lead to her passing out somewhere. Several times I was called to come pick her up by people I’d never heard of, in different places around the area. I can only compare her various ‘drinking hang outs’ to a squirrel that burries his nuts various places in the yard so that he’s never far from food.

Again, I can not, and will not ever, understand how people can call themselves friends that will knowingly provide so much beer or whatever, to someone they KNOW is a chronic alcoholic, to the point of them being so drunk they pass out!!! I’ll never get it, I guess.

Back to the present………..

Since her return to Ft. Worth she and I have spoken almost everyday. And everyday she has usually been either sober or having had just a few beers. This has been a fantastic turn around. Her being with her sister, and near her children have been fantastic. No, I’m not saying she’s ‘recovered’. Of course not. But the propensity for her to improve, and reach her goals are so much greater in this situation than they ever could have been had she stayed in Austin.

It was so frustrating for me. I have several ‘friends’ that wonder what the hell I’m doing trying to help “Joyce”. I even had one supposed friend that actually said to me that I should just let her go and if she dies she dies. And this ‘friend’ considers themself a devout christian! (But that’s a whole different blog) You see, I know ‘Joyce’. I know how smart she is. I know how much love she has for her children and family. I know how much potential she has. Which all comes down to I know what a terrible waste it would be to, “….just let her die…”

So I now have a renewed optimism for “Joyce”. And I pray to God that her progress is continual and solid and permanent.